I doubt this reply will ever be seen by Razlea, but it's important, nonetheless. There may be others in a similar situation that need to hear this too. If any of you know how to contact Raz and can pass this along, I'd greatly appreciate it.
Firstly, I don't make the rules, I don't even know them all myself. However, I would say that once you're in, you're welcome to stay. Have questions about what you believe and why? That's okay by me. Without having people there with you, it's easy to get confused and make worse decisions. I'd suggest that you stay. Ask questions. Chat with us. If we can be of any help, just let us know. I don't expect it all to be public, either. Most of us will answer PMs on the boards, mail in game, talk in Vent...whatever. You pick the method, we'll meet you there.
It's okay to question what you believe. There are countless references in the Bible that tell us this. Job, King David, Jesus... all give us clear examples of wrestling with what God has said - to reflect, pray, consider what was said.
I think that it is healthy to consider your values, your beliefs... and to compare them against what you believe to be the ultimate truth.
Is drinking okay?
Should women wear dresses all the time?
Is it bad for men to have long hair?
Do I have to dress up for church on Sunday?
How should we treat thieves, liars, beggars, homosexuals, murderers?
Is it bad to watch movies with sexuality and violence?
Is abortion wrong?
Is cohabitation before marriage really that bad?
Do I need to be baptized?
There are a countless number of things that we perceive to be right and wrong, and it's hard to get a grasp on what we believe about most of them. So you really have to look at what you believe, and more importantly, why you believe it.
Because society says so? Because your parents say so? Because you want it to be that way? Or because God said so?
Also think about what got you to where you are now? Why did you believe before? What has been shaking your faith? Are you afraid you're not good enough? Was there was a hypocrite at church?
There are a lot of people that try to do something with good intentions, but they really just miss the boat on how to effectively reach out and do the right thing.
Leaving when you have questions could be you doing something with good intentions, but completely going about it in the worst way possible.
Come and talk to me. I might have an answer you've been needing to hear. But I'm not so set in my ways that I'm not willing to explore the possibilities with you and maybe we'll both learn something.
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