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Neirai the Forgiven

Neirai the Forgiven

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Hey all... this is kinda hard for me to out and say, but here goes.

"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it." 1 Cor 10:13

With that verse in mind, I've come to ask you for your prayers and stand with me as I, along with my Lord Jesus Christ, fight what I am believing will be my last fight with Pornography.

I've been fluctuating between "struggling with" and "going along with" a pornography addiction for about nine years now.

Yesterday in Psychology class we studied addictions and what they do to your brain/behavior studies. Basically, they alter them in certain ways and I have come to the realization that Pornography is a direct attack on my life by Satan, trying to destroy those parts of my character that make me a caring, sensative, loving individual and numbing my ability to function in the ways that God intends me to function. As I realize that now, I am choosing to fight it with everything that I can muster.

I ask that you would:
1. Forgive me for acting as if I didn't have this problem.
2. Pray that I would resist the schemes of the devil.
3. Pray that God heal the damage that has already been done to my mind and spirit.
4. Pray that I would not "lose hope" or fall into a trap of self-blame and guilt, but rather that I would be confident that I am doing what God wants me to do by abstaining from this evil.
5. Keep me accountable -- pester me to make certain that I'm not just hiding sin and pretending to be okay.
6. Support me as I endevour to walk away from the lies that have formed a basis for my addiction.
7. Remind me to depend on GOD and not on MYSELF for the strength to battle this.


Thank you for your prayers -- I want to be free so I can follow Jesus more closely!
 
I have watched many men in my life struggle through this. I think what I have witnessed being their most effective tool against this is getting a group of men (not other individuals) and studying the word together about intergrity, purity, and love.

One issue I've also witnessed in many men is that they convince themselves that it's only themselves they are hurting. Even if the people around you don't know about your problem-it still effects them. Trust me I know.

God will answer your prayers-but you also have to be willing to do what it takes. Do you need to shut off your internet? Or do you need to put up an accountablity program on your computer? Do you need to move your computer to a more central location in your house? On what level are you willing to sacrifice your own convenience to end this addiction?

I'm sure my husband would be glad to help you out (he usually doesn't check this forum). He is Strong Fortress. Please feel free to give him a PM.
 
I commend you for your honesty. It is not easy to overcome the feelings of shame that accompany a sin such as pornography and confess it before the bretheren. I personally don't struggle with that sin but it seems that we all have our Achilles heel, so to speak. I had a friend who struggled with pornagraphy to the point that in order to get victory he had to give total control of their computer to his wife. He just couldn't be alone on a computer. I don't know your level of addiction, but I do know that for something like this you definitely need someone to help keep you accountable. The website www.x3church.com has free accountability software that will send information about your web browsing to an accountability partner of your choosing. They also have tools that will help you in your recovery. I will be praying for you.
 
I will try to post more later when I am home and have more time to do so. For now, let me give you a few verses and I'll pray for you.

"Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you." James 4:7
"I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me." Philipians 4:13

Remember, when you think you are ok on your own in the realm of temptation, it is when you are most vulnerable.

I will Post again tonight or send you a PM.
 
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That is a vey good website. Check it out.
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Doing so atm.

I've also got my family (Mom & Dad) onboard for this.

I've just decided I've HAD IT WITH THIS STUFF and I think there is no time like the present to break free, with God's grace & help.

I just know it will take lots of prayer :).
 
takes a loong time spud, ive dealt with it for years, and what the other guy said is true about not jhust hurting yourself but those around u. one thing ive found consistantly is that you dont just download images, spirits come through too and it allows a foot hold into ur household. xchurch.com is really pro site, i keep xwatch on my comp for my friends to monitor me too.
 
porn is a hard addiction, jsut when u think you've broken it u say "well i cna do it onre more time it wont hurt"

ill pray for u, i heard of this site that sets up a blocker to keep you from going to porn sites. i dont remember the name but it is a good diea to check out but i will def pray.
 
Neirai the Forgiven said:
"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it." 1 Cor 10:13
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Neirai, how are you doing so far, are you getting victory?

I pray that the Lord gives you the strength to take the way of escape.
 
Many of y'all have been so good to me, supporting me in prayer and in words.

As long as I remember that I'm doing this, not by my strength, but by following behind Jesus as he leads me through this, I've been doing well.

When I get egotistical and try to forge my own path, temptation is right there waiting for me.

Since writing the first message I haven't indulged and looked (PRAISE GOD!) but there have been times (when I try to lead) that I have entertained sinful thoughts. Thankfully because of the mercy and grace of Jesus Christ those times have been farther and farther apart.


All praise be to Jesus Christ our Lord & Savior and to the only true God, because he is awesome and he provides the strength to carry us through life's struggles -- even struggles that we have created for ourselves.
 
Porn..what an insidious hook satan has in men these days. Men are visual by nature and the images porn produces just draws us right into a fantasy world. I was so badly addicted to porn at one point i spent WEEKS at a time downloading it. I had 4 hard drives full of the stuff. I'm not going to get into how badly addicted i was but it's not hard to imagine it. I run content filters here at the house not only to keep it away from my daughter but away form myself as well.

Porn is like any other addiction..you never truly get rid of it. I'll be praying for you..one addict for another..:)
 
I'm not sure how I missed this thread the first time around, but I wanted to weigh in and post a few thoughts.

First and foremost, nearly all men struggle against the temptation of pornography. This is perhaps the most common struggle facing Christian men today.

It used to be that a man would need to come into contact with another person to purchase pornographic material. Men weighed the social impact of being seen buying pornographic material against the short-term pleasure of viewing pornography and made the obvious decision: to abstain. In short, there was guaranteed accountability; someone would see the person purchasing the pornography.

The scenario changed with the advent of the Internet. Men can now access pornographic material without facing another person. Accountability has been removed.

A first key step is restoring accountability. There are several great tools available for men wanting to make themselves accountable to another person. Here are a few:
I use Safe Eyes myself; my wife, best friend, and a member of our local church (male, of course) have access to my Internet usage logs to keep me accountable.

If you struggle with pornography, discuss the matter with a trusted member of a local church and ask them to hold you accountable. Even if you don't, take a pro-active step and use one of these programs. If you don't have anyone in the local church you feel you can trust, or if you don't attend a local church, perhaps men in the CGA community will volunteer to serve as accountability partners. If someone you trust agrees to help, grant them access to your Internet usage logs as supplied through one of the three programs listed above.

I also strongly recommend the free online course, Setting Captives Free.

Another important point is to learn the distinction between conviction and guilt. Guilt produces nothing positive, while conviction leads to genuine repentance and a change in behavior.

I've given a great deal of thought to this topic, and I have more to write about American culture, the church's reactions (both healing and damaging), and the ways in which pornography addiction damages a man's psyche as well as his relationships. For tonight, though, I at least wanted to post this message to assure men struggling with pornography that they are not alone. This is a common struggle, and God's grace is sufficient.
 
when i was younger and i didnt care too much about going to church or being a christian, i used to pretend to be sick to stay home form church and d/l porn


ive bene doing well in stopping, i did splurge a few months ago but felt guilty. ill pray for u, its hard.
 
I just want you to know you aren't alone I have a similar problem Neirai. I'll pray for you and the others.
 
ok, i guess i should've browsed the topics a bit before making my own thread. my short story is on the "battle with pornography" thread. it is so awesome to know that no matter what satan throws at us, even shameful addictions, that we can use his weapons as a common ground to come together and strengthen each other. how do you like that satan? your garbage has brought me together with friends to help me out of your trap! stick that in your ear and twist it!:D
 
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