Here is part 2 of of our discussion on God'ds purpose for Husbands and Men
Love like the Savior
Husbands love you wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.
A) Love is seeking God’s best for our spouse.
a. Love is based on an act of will, not a passing feelingGive some examples.
Husbands, love your wives, and do not embittered against them
b) Love is sacrificial action, not good intentions
c) Love is given in obedience to Christ, not in response to our spouse’s performance. Meaning what?
d) Love is expressed verbally and in actions. What kind of examples?
e) Love is self-denial. Consider; there is no such thing as love if it doesn’t cost you anythingNote: When you love your wife sacrificially, you model the relationship between Christ and the church to your family and the world
B) Love’s goal is building up and enrichment of a wife
So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Chrisr also does the church, because we are members of His body
a. A husband’s love should nourish his wife by encouraging and enabling her to grow and develop her gifts and abilities
b. A husband’s love should cherish his wife by responding to her needs as a valued gift from God.“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and you will find rest for your soul. For My yoke is easy, and My burden is light.”
a) A wife feels cherished when her husband communicates with her
b) A wife feels cherished when there is romance in the relationship. Think about this; How can YOU be more romantic guys?
c)A wife feels cherished when her husband is trustworthy. Do you feel that your wife feels you are trustworthy?
d) A wife feels cherished when her husband makes her load lighter not heavier
C) A husband’s love should be expressed as he seeks to more fully understand his wife
e) A wife feels cherished when her husband prays with her and sets a godly example
You Husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman, and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
1 Peter 3:7
This was a powerful part for me and I hope it is for you also. Stay tuned for the “Rest of The Story.”
a) A wife feel understood when her husband prays with her in making key decisions
b) A wife feel understood when her husband considers her needs values, and preferences.
c)A wife feel understood when her husband listens without trying to fix her problems. What does this mean to you?
God Bless all