Wives are a gift from God and God tends to be smart enough to pair up a man with someone who's truly suited to the challenges he's going to face in life. Sometimes we can fail to rejoice in life not because we're unhappy but because the trials we are going through can make us feel like we are failing or disappointing our spouse in some way, but chances are they're probably a bit more resilient about things than you think.
Today was my birthday so my husband determined last night he would go to bed at midnight (his usual time is more like 4am-ish) so he could get up early enough in the morning to make me an omelet for breakfast and that was his one goal for the day. Now he's been pretty sick for a very long time so this is a much bigger deal for him than it may sound, and unfortunately since it was out of habit for him, he couldn't get to sleep when he wanted to and so wasn't able get up when he wanted either so breakfast didn't happen after all. He felt really bad about this so I told him he could make me the omelet for dinner instead. It wasn't really about whether I got an omelet today or not, but that he wanted to do something for me that required restructuring his day that made it special, even if it didn't go as successfully as he hoped. Rejoicing is more of an improvisational art form than a methodical to-do list.