A friend and a bad website

[Atown]

she's talked to him about it many

o.0 good guess, but he may never want to stop. he disregards morals (when his girlfriend said you're not supposed to be on that site because you're too young he replied "age limits mean nothing") and he's not Christian (obviously doesn't care to be... but he wants to be considered "Catholic" for his girlfriend

considering this is where a majority of online fads started........ but yeah, just tell the gf to drop him unless he changes. the reason i was able to stop my porn watching was the thought of disrespecting my future gf/wife. and i didt realize how it really affected my mind until i met starr. and as a cathlic (and hopefully strong one) his gf should realize that if he continues to live in sin than hes not someone to really be involved with imo.......

 

[The Mighty Gerbil]

sadly this thread is pretty popular to post in i see x_x

by the way i have trouble just letting things go to the wind... i feel that this is basically wounding his soul and there's nothing i can do about it unless i stop it completely...

It's popular (not really that popular in my opinion) probably because we've all wanted to help someone at some point, but, had to come to the realization we couldn't. The choice between accepting or rejecting God is a personal one. It's that freedom of choice that gives our lives value. I know it is hard to be idle when the welfare of someone you care about is at stake, but, all you can do sometimes is pray, trust in God and be prepared to act should a opportunity present itself. Change isn't always sudden either. Sometimes it takes a continued influence over a long period of time to get finally get though to someone.

also i find it difficult to talk to people about things i want them to work with because not only do i not like telling people they have flaws but i don't think anybody really has ever absorbed anything i had to say (about anything, not just them).
For example, i don't like playing golf with my dad (i won't explain the reasons now) and when he told me to explain why i never tell him these things i said he wouldn't listen to me anyway... and he didn't take anything i said to hear, he just said, "no," turned it around and used it against me.

Yes that is difficult too. It's important to admit to your own flaws in order to do that. You also have to phrase it so you are telling the person "what is right" for their benefit not "I want to be right whether it actually is or not". It's a desire to align oneself and others to God's will not to align God to your will. The Christian attitude is to admit you sin even though you strive against it. The unsaved attitude will not admit to sin or more often accept that their sin has consequences therefore they can never strive against it (it's just "insert excuse" it doesn't matter).

i wouldn't have thought this thread would depress me but it's beginning to turn the skies gray

Then don't think about it anymore and move on to something you can do something about. I'm sure there are issues and people who could use a caring guy like you... ok that's sappy, but, true. You wouldn't be concerned about your friend if you didn't care about people to begin with and that's a whole lot better attitude than not caring at all .

 

[Amicus Dei of [FoG]]

I know it is hard to be idle when the welfare of someone you care about is at stake
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You wouldn't be concerned about your friend if you didn't care about people to begin with and that's a whole lot better attitude than not caring at all .

i'm moreso doing this for his girlfriend and their relationship than him..... x_x

 

[one2dredd]

Sadly I think this would hurt their relationship way more than it would help.