Accountability

rizz

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I am sure most of you have read the thread started by Crazy about lust etc.. (well except stormy..lol). It has had a huge response and lead the the sprouting of an idea of an accountability group of some description.

Now we must be clear that anything we create would never replace a real accountability group with real people in real life. The internet provides a certain anonymity and shield for anyone. So people could be as closed or dishonest as they feel with it.

That said we have to be careful and consider our options. I think we should construct something but i dont know what.

We could have a time in IRC weekly where people meet although i think that would be impractical.
Kasimir cleverly suggested we create a locked forum for people to post in. Although if its locked we have to check who is part of it. I would email the password to anyone in it and keep a list here.

It could work. But again its all down to the people who take part in it. This is somethign i have had to overcome in the past so i would be glad to help with it.

The main problem if we create a forum is that if there are all these people posting about how they fell this week, what do we say to them? I mean i cant think of much and after the 10th time its gonna get a bit repetitive.

Let me know what you think we have to have this thing nailed before we move on it.
 
maybe instead see who is intrested and try to match them up by how well each other knows eachother ect, because your more likely to share with someone you know than someone you do not know. also maybe do it over AIM/ICQ/MSN and leave it up to the groups to contact each other, because it comes down really just to asking how you are doing at certian points and stuff during the week.
 
LoJ isnt that just basically the mentor scheme in general? Perhaps we should just post something about how if you need an accountability partner try the mentor's challenge us in whatever possible, *shrugs* I don't know
 
yes it is the mentor scheme basicly , BUT like lets say me and Rizz where to be accountablitiy partner we just talk to eachother about life/stuff in general like once a week on aim and we pray for each other, also it is more of a scratching of surface something to help keep us on track, and to have ppl alway praying for us where as the mentorship program IMO is more indepth than just an accountablity partner and they choose who they want to be mentored by ect.
 
I think if somoen has a serious problem with porn then they would need either a mentor or a real life help scenario.

The accountability thing we want to construct is specific to the area of porn and related topics. If they want to be accountable for their whole life then they should indeed get a mentor. The idea i want to try and create is somewhere where people can feel comfortable talking about such a taboo subject and generate solutions for it.
 
Accountability need not be limited to areas where you are under weight .. it can extend to most of the areas also covered in mentorship..although for our purposes I think the current scheme of mentorship being indepth and general is more apt.....

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Quote[/b] ]The main problem if we create a forum is that if there are all these people posting about how they fell this week, what do we say to them? I mean i cant think of much and after the 10th time its gonna get a bit repetitive.
re the above : it can be a problem although i do not think it needs to be ....I agree with rizz that the IRC option might have been the best option BUT probably somewhat impractical... coz im on the same times as rizz but not the US guys... so that might very well not work properly .....

maybe in our case what we need to do, is this : instead of having a place where people can confess, maybe we should see it more as a place where we can help ... maybe everyone that indicates a desire to be a part of this can be assigned a mentor that keeps in contact via email weekly for the accountability side, but fullfills a mentor role in terms of trying to understand the persons situation and maybe offer advice etc..and basically being a mentor ? .....
 
Any more thoughts here or shall we consider the idea dead and buried and focus on getting the people into mentoring ?
 
I think it's a good idea, but perhaps would be better as an aspect of mentoring. I totally agree with Rizz (I hope I read that right) that the vast body of both mentoring and accountability should be handled by someone in physical contact with whomever. At the same time, I recognize the time alot of people spend online.

As ToJ mentors, one needs to think about what that means. Does it just mean to be able to pray for a person and give them decent advice? No. It means to become a part of their life, in whatever aspect, to, yes, pray, advise, but also become an example, and accountability person.

As we're discipling (because that's what mentoring is, isn't it?), we're teaching someone how to become a more successful person through Jesus Christ. Accountability is the only way to gauge if the lessons are being learned. Otherwise, it could just be "vain babblings" which we're taught that God hates.
 
Very True.. I must say that the one person who has asked to be mentored so far.. has been a handfull...lol

He has a lot going on but its very similar to my past so im doing the best i can for him. The main problem i have found already is of course the distance. I email him weekly but in the reply i often hear that its too late to have stopped him from doing all this nasty stuff that could have been prevented.

Yes the mentorship program does work. but i think we really need to push the point of finding someone they know in church to replace us or join us as soon as possible. We can only do so much on one side of a pc screen.
 
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