Caleb, I LOVE threads like this, thank you! I read this on my lunch break and have pondered it and will continue to do so!
The best picture of love is I Corinthians 13. I don't think there could be any greater way to love than this. I think that includes, when given the opportunity, telling others about Jesus. Some will till the ground, some will plant, some will water, some will harvest...but we can all have a part in winning a soul for Christ, by proclaiming His Word...it never comes back void. What better way could we love than caring for another's eternal soul?
In addition, I have always loved the quote, "Love the sinner, hate the sin." I think that is an excellent thing to remember and it carries with it the Bible Love, God's way of Loving.
It is fascinating to me that the King James Version calls Love, Charity in that chapter; when you think about it, it is a way of giving of ourselves! It is an action word, a doing word!
Putting others first is Love! When you do all those things mentioned in the Love chapter, that is exactly what you are doing.
We all love being loved and God has gifted us with so many sources! The best of all though, is unconditional Love, that is God's Love! While we love being loved, how much more so by those who know us best and love us despite our shortcomings?
As for being unloving...any time we do the opposite of those things mentioned in the Love Chapter. Our words, if they are not led of the Holy Spirit can be very unloving. They carry the power to deeply wound and can never be taken back. The Bible says the tongue is a little member...it can create great fire! As for others being unkind or unloving, God says a soft answer turneth away wrath. Sometimes when we or anyone is being unloving, it may mean we are really needing love.
I hope that somewhat answers what you are looking for. Excellent post! I think there are as many ways to love as there are to be unloving. If we truly love someone with Godly Love, we find those ways that would be unique to that individual...seeing to their needs while putting ours aside, or at least second to theirs.