jokitaylor
Banned
It has been on my heart to write this up for a while. I was not asked to do this and it does not have the endorsement of any leadership, so let me just say if this is wrong it is all on my shoulders.
Most of us have felt frustration with the guild at one time or another. None of us are immune to those feelings that come with being part of a community that is organic, that is to say active and alive.
I have been playing this game for nearly five years now, and have seen every kind of thing imaginable. I have left guilds, I have joined guilds, I have had bitterness against certain people, and I have had my heart trampled on.
My goal in writing this note is to encourage anyone who may either be in that place or heading down that road.
When you are frustrated or thinking of quitting here are some things you need to be aware of:
1) Yes it is a game, but there are real people on the other side of the keyboard who have just as many feelings and passions as you do.
2) Everyone has a sinful nature - if we truly understand salvation we are saved from an eternity separated from God, but our sin nature is still present until Christ returns. This means that in a living breathing community people who are still prone to make mistakes and to hurt each other. Hopefully we can be as quick to forgive as Christ forgave us.
3) Ultimately in a community you do not always get what you want. It is the same in any community relationship whether it is our families or friends, our job, or our church.
So what do I do with my frustration or bitterness?
1) The first question you need to ask yourself is - have I clearly identified what is bugging me and have I talked to someone about it. Even if you just want to bounce it off a friend it is better than leaving it bottled up inside.
2) Don't assume everyone sees it the way you do. I know for a fact that a simple misinterpretation can lead to heartache. Make sure that your perspective is correct before you take action.
3) Have you prayed about it? I recently was so frustrated with something here in this very guild that I very nearly felt like quitting. I prayed and asked God to show me what to do. He led me down a very different road and the situation was resolved.
4) Have you taken some time to think it through clearly? Dwelling on bad thoughts is not Biblical - make sure that you have carefully thought something through before you make any hasty decisions.
5) Are you leaving with bitterness against someone? The Bible simply doesn't let us off the hook for that. In Matthew it tells us that we need to go an be reconciled with one another. If you can leave with love and respect then you are clear, if not in truth the problem will follow you around.
6) Are you prepared to throw away friendships? Leaving a guild comes at a great cost - you may lose very valuable friendships over a hasty decision.
7) Ask yourself honestly if the reason you are frustrated or quitting is Biblical or simply emotional. This is very difficult and I suggest you find some good advice from a trusted friend.
I write these things that God may be glorified in this guild, and that you may not lose heart. God is sovereign and when we can with confidence cast all our cares upon Him.
If you need to talk - yeah I'm a nobody but I have been there and I am willing to just be a friend, please don't leave everything bottled up inside.
God bless.
Most of us have felt frustration with the guild at one time or another. None of us are immune to those feelings that come with being part of a community that is organic, that is to say active and alive.
I have been playing this game for nearly five years now, and have seen every kind of thing imaginable. I have left guilds, I have joined guilds, I have had bitterness against certain people, and I have had my heart trampled on.
My goal in writing this note is to encourage anyone who may either be in that place or heading down that road.
When you are frustrated or thinking of quitting here are some things you need to be aware of:
1) Yes it is a game, but there are real people on the other side of the keyboard who have just as many feelings and passions as you do.
2) Everyone has a sinful nature - if we truly understand salvation we are saved from an eternity separated from God, but our sin nature is still present until Christ returns. This means that in a living breathing community people who are still prone to make mistakes and to hurt each other. Hopefully we can be as quick to forgive as Christ forgave us.
3) Ultimately in a community you do not always get what you want. It is the same in any community relationship whether it is our families or friends, our job, or our church.
So what do I do with my frustration or bitterness?
1) The first question you need to ask yourself is - have I clearly identified what is bugging me and have I talked to someone about it. Even if you just want to bounce it off a friend it is better than leaving it bottled up inside.
2) Don't assume everyone sees it the way you do. I know for a fact that a simple misinterpretation can lead to heartache. Make sure that your perspective is correct before you take action.
3) Have you prayed about it? I recently was so frustrated with something here in this very guild that I very nearly felt like quitting. I prayed and asked God to show me what to do. He led me down a very different road and the situation was resolved.
4) Have you taken some time to think it through clearly? Dwelling on bad thoughts is not Biblical - make sure that you have carefully thought something through before you make any hasty decisions.
5) Are you leaving with bitterness against someone? The Bible simply doesn't let us off the hook for that. In Matthew it tells us that we need to go an be reconciled with one another. If you can leave with love and respect then you are clear, if not in truth the problem will follow you around.
6) Are you prepared to throw away friendships? Leaving a guild comes at a great cost - you may lose very valuable friendships over a hasty decision.
7) Ask yourself honestly if the reason you are frustrated or quitting is Biblical or simply emotional. This is very difficult and I suggest you find some good advice from a trusted friend.
I write these things that God may be glorified in this guild, and that you may not lose heart. God is sovereign and when we can with confidence cast all our cares upon Him.
If you need to talk - yeah I'm a nobody but I have been there and I am willing to just be a friend, please don't leave everything bottled up inside.
God bless.
